Who is on Your Dream Team?
Take the time to name those people who helped you get to where you are today. To help, we’ll give you a few quick prompts – about the friends, influences, places, work colleagues and other sources of inspiration that made your life possible.,
At the end, you’ll get a wonderful visualization of all the people who contributed to who you are today AND the opportunity to share it with them as a way of saying thanks.
This will take around ten minutes but don’t worry if you forget someone or need more time, you can always save where you are and update it later. Also, this is your dream team, not ours, so this data won’t be shared by anyone for any reason, period. If you’d prefer to do this with pencil and paper, just download the prompts and blank form here.
In a year defined by sickness, this week has been particularly so.
There are many forms of sickness of which I speak. The obvious one is the coronavirus – whose toll mounts despite having the means right in front of us to control it. Less obvious is the sickness in our politics and civil discourse – not just between members of different political parties but within our families and amongst our friends.
Nelson Mandela once stated, “Having a grievance or resentment is like drinking poison and hoping it will kill the enemy.”
We are making ourselves sick.
While social distancing and wearing masks are the key to defeating the coronavirus, the opposite is necessary if we want to make ourselves well from the poison we’ve been drinking.
We need to close the social distances that divide us and drop our masks that pretend we have all the answers. We do not want to be vulnerable to the coronavirus but must show some vulnerability to each other if we intend to heal.
In response to what I was seeing in the social media feeds of my friends and family and what we were not saying to each other, I wrote this letter to them that appeared in papers in Pennsylvania where most live.
It is resulting in some of the best conversations I’ve had about politics in ten years. Most occurred online, a few on the phone. We peacefully and productively talked about issues ranging from faith to fracking from the military to protests. I’ve learned more about these issues than I ever had before and I believe the same holds true for those on the other end of the conversation. Importantly, I learned how the coronavirus and the economic shutdown has impacted my family and friends more directly than I had imagined – including some who had lost loved ones.
The goal of these conversations were not about converting or convincing anyone. It was about connecting with them.
It was about opening each other’s minds, not changing them.
When we feel sick, we look for a diagnosis – not for someone else but for ourselves. The treatment is for us to follow – not for someone else. In this case, my prescription was not ingesting more poison but letting it go. One text, one call, one conversation at a time.
Moving Up is an initiative based on the writing of Bob McKinnon. Motivated to understand his own journey out of poverty and inspired by his career working with nonprofits and foundations, Bob began exploring the science behind why some people make it and others don’t – and how we make sense of our life outcome either way.
His journey was captured in his recent TEDx talk: How Did I End Up Here and in the interactive book, Moving Up: The Truth About Getting Ahead in America that takes you through the various factors the impact where we end up in life. It features compelling personal narratives, relevant social science, and documented mobility research and best practices
Bob is the author of the Moving Up Mondays blog that reaches thousands of readers each week and the book Actions Speak Loudest: Keeping Our Promise for A Better World. A contributor to Fast Company, Thrive Global, Medium and the Huffington Post, he is also an adjunct professor at the Parsons School of Design. Among his courses taught is Redesigning the American Dream.
In the spirit of Moving Up, this is Bob’s alternative bio: “Bob McKinnon is the son of Daytona Roth, a former bartender who raised three children largely by herself in various row houses in Chelsea, Massachusetts and trailers in rural Pennsylvania. He is a proud former recipient of food stamps, welfare, Medicaid, Pell grants, student loans and numerous other government benefits. His educational and professional success would not be possible without the kindness and efforts of countless teachers, mentors, social workers, friends, family, non-profit workers, and individuals – many of whom will never know their impact on his life.
Through his writing and work, he hopes to pay tribute and thanks to all those who have helped him and others move up in life.
The Moving Up Media Lab
To advance this work, Bob founded the Moving Up Media Lab, a non-profit whose mission is to inspire Americans to reflect on who and what has contributed to where they end up in life.
Each year the Lab focuses on developing 1-2 projects that are designed to help people reflect on their own journeys and gain a deeper appreciation for what has helped or hindered their efforts along the way. Research shows that by providing people with tools to reflect on their own life journey, they can become both more supportive and helpful towards others.
The Invisible Dream: A year-long research project done in conjunction with Public Agenda, asking Americans to share their attitudes about what the American Dream is and what it takes to achieve it. Results and an infographic series were launched at a National Press Club event which featured Fox News political analyst Juan Williams, Isabel Sawhill of the Brookings Institution, Robert Samuelson of The Washington Post and Hedrick Smith, author of Who Stole the American Dream?
Your American Dream Score: An interactive calculator that allows people to see what factors have helped or hindered their own efforts to move up in life. Over 600,0000 people have already found their score to date and it is now the basis for curriculum created by PBS Learning and diversity training programs. It was recognized by Fast Company as a finalist for its World Changing Ideas issue.
My Dream Team: A simple online tool for people to name and thank the people, places and organizations that provided the social capital to help them get to where they are today. In the end, each person receives a beautiful, shareable visualization of their Dream Team comprised of all the people, places and groups that made their journey possible
Thank You:Each piece of content we create is the result of a highly collaborative effort. Without their involvement none of this work would be possible.
The foundation is the research relationships with scholars, universities and organizations that study the issues and attitudes surrounding mobility. They include:
- Brookings Institution, Century Foundation, Cornell University, Columbia University, Harvard University, The New School University, Public Agenda, Northwestern University, Penn State University, Stanford University, University of California-Irvine
Our inspiration is drawn from our relationships with those working to help lift themselves or others move up in life, including organizations such as:
- Big Brothers/Big Sisters, Chasing the Dream, Children’s Health Fund, Family Independence Initiative, Foundation for the Carolinas,The Ford Foundation, KIPP, LIFT Communities, Opportunity Insights, Opportunity Nation, Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, Yonkers Partners in Education
Media organizations provide the platforms necessary for sharing our work.
- PBS, Facebook, Fast Company, New York Times, NPR, The Huffington Post, The Boston Globe, and Yahoo among others outlets have featured our work.
Each project is funded through a combination of individual donations and grants from:
- The Ford Foundation, The Tides Foundation, Big Brothers Big Sisters of Central Carolina, The Foundation for the Carolinas and Photowings
Throughout the development of this work, we have benefited greatly from the guidance and wisdom of many individuals whose scholarship and commitment to helping others move up is unparalleled. They include:
- Raj Chetty, Brian Collier, Seth Godin, Paul Piff, Shai Davidai, Fiona Guthrie, Crysta Jentile, Kellie-Castruita-Specter, Geraldine Moriba, Eugenia Harvey, Will Platt-Higgins, Vicki Zubovic, and Anne Adriance among many others.
Finally, the digital design and development of our tools and this site is made possible by our fantastic partners at Sol Design – led by Adam Rosenkoetter.